Should I visit the Chapel of Rest?
When someone dies, they will be brought to our funeral home where you can come and see them in our Chapel of Rest. If you have never been to a Chapel of Rest before, this guide will give you an idea on what to expect during your visit.
What is a Chapel of Rest?
At Tom Owen and Son, we are proud to have an onsite Chapel of Rest available to our families. Our Chapel of Rest was refurbished in November 2021 and provides a calm, serene space for families to visit someone who has died. It is the perfect space in which to pay your final respects to the person that has died before their funeral.
What can I expect in the Chapel of Rest?
If you have never been in a Chapel of Rest before, it can be a little daunting as to what to expect. Not all Chapels of Rest are the same. At Tom Owen and Son, we will give you all the time you need. We won't rush you. We are happy to accompany you into the Chapel of Rest, and stay as long as you need us to. We will always explain to you before you enter what you can expect.
In our Chapel of Rest, we place the coffin at the end of the room upon some trestles. We will light candles and use mood lighting to make the space welcoming. We don't have windows in our Chapel of Rest, however we do have a beautiful stained glass window with a mountain scene which offers a peaceful calming feature.
There are comfortable chairs available, which you can move to be closer to the coffin and the person that has died if you prefer. There is also a table and chairs, for you to leave your belongings.
We will ask you if you would like a drink during your stay.
We have speakers within the room, which we can play favourite tracks of the person who has died.
We don't have time limits to how long you can spend in our Chapel of Rest, we encourage you to spend as long as you need.
Will I be able to touch the person that has died?
One of the main things that people worry about when coming to our Chapel of Rest is what the person who has died will look like. We try to ensure that we have seen pictures of the person who has died, so that when we wash and dress them and prepare them for your visit, they look just like you remember.
We do not routinely embalm anyone. You can read more about embalming here. You are welcome to hold the hand of the person who has died. They may feel cold to touch.
Just remember that the decision on whether to visit the Chapel of Rest is yours. There is no expectation from anyone if you are not comfortable with doing so.
Who can visit a Chapel of Rest?
We will only allow visits to our Chapel of Rest with the permission of the person arranging the funeral. It is therefore best to check with us or the family beforehand. We have an open door policy at our funeral home, as all deceased people remain onsite, however we do ask that you book an appointment to ensure no other families are using the Chapel of Rest at the same time.
We do not have a limit to the number of visits you can have to our Chapel of Rest and we do not charge extra for visiting.
Can children attend a Chapel of Rest?
We allow children to visit our Chapel of Rest. The decision on whether they wish to undertake this will be at the parents discretion. You can read more about children attending funerals here.
Can pets come to a Chapel of Rest?
Tom Owen and Son are a pet friendly funeral director and therefore all pets are welcome to visit our Chapel of Rest. We even have some dog biscuits on hand!
Can I take photos in a Chapel of Rest?
As long as you have the permission of the person arranging the funeral, then taking photos is permitted within our Chapel of Rest.
Can I speak in a Chapel of Rest?
Yes of course you can! We encourage you to speak to the person who has died. Perhaps you want to say goodbye, vocalise your feelings or just generally talk to them.